Anger is a normal emotion but it is how we use or manage it that is important. Anger is healthy when you encounter a serious injustice. I gained great experience working at the Everyman Project which helps men to change their violent and abusive behaviour. The first step is admitting that there is some kind of anger problem happening. Without the person admitting that they have a problem changes cannot happen. It is possible that when angry we try:
Overcoming Anger. Dr W.Dryden (1996)
When feelings get bottled up you may end up constantly bickering and feeling irritable.
Clients come to me when others have said they are
Passive-Aggressive. This is subtle and veiled or disguised by
actions that appear to be normal, at times loving and caring. It
is where you are angry with someone but do not or cannot tell
them. It's that sweet-yet-scolding note your partner or colleague
leaves about the one cup you left unwashed, or the report your
forgetting to finish for you. Passive-aggression
is frustrating to its targets, since it is not as easily
identifiable-or unacceptable-as, say, socking someone in the jaw
would be. Psychology Today looks at Assertiveness not aggressiveness
I have worked also with clients that have angry outbursts and this has been caused by a dramatic event and in some cases their GP has diagnosed PTSD- Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. The later is an area I have worked with at the Everyman Project and as a Trauma Incident Manager at Bupa.
Anger could be
A space where you can express yourself
freely and feel heard. When working I hope to gain insights that
are useful in helping you to find ways to deal with upsetting
situations and take more control over what is happening.
When we look at what happens to the body we can see how unhealthy anger is: